Where to lose?

How many books have we seen which celebrates victory? How many articles / people give tips about winning in life? How many wants to win in life; in career; in everything they attempt to? How many of us don’t relate our ego with our defeat or for that matter winning? How many are ready to be defeated? How many of us know where to win?

Day in day out we are afraid of getting defeated. It could be against anybody – boss; father; mother; son; daughter; wife; boy friend; girl friend; society; and the list goes on... We choose our options so carefully that we should not get lost in the game of life. We strive to win in our lives. We are scared to accept pain; accept defeats and disappointments. We are worried to let go of our ego; let go of our social status; our prestige and whatever it brings along with it.

It is not our fault. Nature has made it that way. Our race started when we ran to get a place inside our mother’s womb. Since then our life has become a race; race against somebody; race against time; race against money; race against every other thing in the life and all that we are worried about is the victory.

I have always been wondering what we lose in life by accepting defeat in front of our Parents or vice versa? How much of our bank balance will get deducted when we let go of our ego in front of our Husband / Wife? How much of peace and prosperity will go away from family when we let go of our self to our most treasured relationship?

I am not saying that life is for losing and we lose our identity. But life is not about ONLY winning. The most sad part is most of us are ready to let strangers win over us easily (in the name of corporate culture) but we let our ego win against our own mother, father, wife, kids and people who dream about our ‘real’ success. Sometimes we have to teach ourselves that disappointments are necessary to spice up life through its lesson; pains and sufferings prepare us for the rainy days; holding up ego necessarily lets us down in life.

Knowing “where to lose” in life is equally important as knowing “where to win”.

Things to Remember....

Its been a while since I wrote on my blog - Not because I did not have topics but I had too many to choose one from. Nevertheless, while am still contemplating what to write, thought its good to share the below quote from a Pencil Maker which is worth lifetime..

The Pencil Maker took some pencils aside, just before putting them into the box.

He said, "There are 5 things you need to know before I send you out into the word. Always remember them and never forget them, and you will become the best pencil you can be."

"One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand."

"Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil."

"Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make."

"Four: The most important part of you will be what's inside."

"Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write."

Learn to be the best pencil to succeed in every walk of life.